thejusticethatissocial:

You can buy Peace by Chocolate’s Pride Bars here! While quantities last. 

https://peacebychocolate.ca/

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dissolutionandcreation:

theartoftransliness:

theskaldspeaks:

triflesandparsnips:

floozycaucus:

How do you (“how does one”) shop for a therapist?

Can you call up a therapist and be like “hi, I’m therapist shopping”? Can you schedule an appointment with a therapist and then be like “actually I have some questions and I want to spend part of this appointment talking about your practice and whether or not it is garbage?”? Are you expected to phone interview/screen your therapists if you are shopping around for a therapist?

If you’re seeing one therapist are you supposed to/not supposed to tell them if you start seeing another therapist? Is it possible to cheat on your therapist?

I know this one! Or, at least, I know a way to do it, because I’ve done it.

1) When you call them up (or email them, which I prefer, because PHONE, EW), you ask if they’re taking new patients.

2) If they say yes, say something along the lines of “Great! I’m looking for a new therapist. Would it be possible for me to schedule an appointment so we can see whether we’d be a good fit for one another?”

• IF THEY SAY NO, THEY DON’T DO ‘INTERVIEWS’: they’re a dick, you don’t want them anyway, don’t bother to make an appointment

3) Assuming everything is a go, head over to the appointment. Bring your notebook, pen, and questions. Also, if possible, have a very brief rundown prepared of what you’d like to accomplish with your therapy (or even what you think your biggest issues are).

4) Introduce yourself. Reiterate that you want to see if the two of you would be a good fit, so [a nice little social laugh or smile here, while holding up your notebook] you brought questions.

• IF THEY DON’T LIKE THAT: they’re a dick, you don’t want them anyway, cut the meeting short

5) Give the rundown of what you want, what your issues are, whatever. See how they react.

• IF YOU FEEL WEIRD AT ALL ABOUT THEM: they may not be a dick, but if you don’t feel comfortable with them, then it’s going to be a shit therapeutic relationship

6) Ask your questions — about their therapeutic approach, why they entered the field, whether they feel comfortable working with *your* needs (I, for instance, specifically told my awesome therapist that I needed her to tell me absolutely nothing about her personal life or experiences — as much as possible, I needed a blank wall to bounce things off of. It’s been years now, and I THINK she’s seen at least a couple of episodes of Doctor Who. I THINK. That’s all I’ve got. It’s amazing).

• AGAIN, IF YOU FEEL WEIRD ABOUT THEM: go with your gut — your therapy is not the time or place to try and soldier through

7) By this point, you’ve probably hit the 45 minute mark, and you’ll know if you want to see this person again.

• IF YES, say that this was a really great meeting, and you’d like to set up a regular appointment.
• IF NO, say “Thanks for meeting with me.” If it wasn’t too terrible, feel free to add in whatever social niceties you want to lessen the blow (“I have appointments with a few other people, still, but thank you again!”), or you could just skedaddle as soon as possible.
• IF YOU’RE NOT SURE, go a bit heavier with the social nicety: “I still have appointments with a few other people, but I really enjoyed our meeting. I’ll let you know as soon as possible if I’d like to schedule another one. Thanks again!”

Regarding current therapists: If they’re toxic, get rid of ‘em before you even start interviewing others. Nobody needs that kind of garbage. Otherwise, you could keep seeing them while you interview others, and then the second you find one you like (and you schedule your next appointment), get rid of your current one. You don’t have to say why — just say that you’d like to cancel future appointments. Do it over email, if you want. If you like them, you can tell them that you just need something different now, but that you “really appreciate all the work we’ve done together” or something. If you don’t like them, just cancel. They don’t need to know jack.

• IF YOUR CURRENT THERAPIST SAYS SHIT ABOUT YOUR LEAVING — and I mean anything other than a positive hope for you in the future — then they were a dick and you were right to find someone else. Who needs passive-aggressive bullshit from a therapist? Nobody, that’s who.

So that’s my philosophy/style with regard to therapist shopping — I may be completely wrong, but it’s worked for me so far. Good luck!

This is really good advice

Yes, very good advice!

Such good advice! One exception though: Therapists that work for organizations may not be able to do interview sessions. In that case, you might need to pay for one session, but you should still be able to ask them questions and such. :)

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inovoxowetrust:

themaynards624:

This show dealt with real world problems. BRING IT BACK

I will always love Static Shock. Please reboot this man .

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fuckingrecipes:

itsmisspickle:

dailytweets:

Amazon Link: https://amzn.to/2twJSuu

Looks like millennials kill an industry before it even got off the ground😂

• 9$ for pushpop containers on Amazon 
  
• 7-10$ for a bottle of cheap alcohol of your choice at your local liquor store.
  
• However much you want to spend on frozen fruit, juice, and yogurt
  
• Alcohol takes longer to freeze than water, but most home freezers can get down to around 15-20 degrees F, which is where you want to aim. 
  
• Fill just over half your blender with frozen fruit
  
• Slop some yogurt on top, idk like a half cup?
  
• Pour wine into the blender until the ‘fill’ line is about a quarter-up. 
  
• BLEND THAT MOTHERFUCKER LIKE IT INSULTED YOUR GRANDMA. 
  
• You want the texture to be pretty thick (thicc), because a thick smoothie will usually harden beautifully in the freezer - forms a nice solid popcicle.
  
• If its too thin, add more fruit. 
• Pour your new slurry of goodness into your popcicle molds
  
• If there’s empty molds, repeat above steps for more delicious sludge. Maybe switch flavors?
  
• Stuff into the freezer. Make sure freezer is set to ‘really freaking cold’ (alcohol freezes at a lower temp than water) 
• Wait a day or two. 
  
• (Eat the leftover smoothie) 
  
• VICTORY

If you’re not into alcohol, just replace the alcohol with a red or white juice and you’re good to go. I don’t recommend citrus fruits/juice because they can interact badly with dairy. You can leave out the yogurt and replace with half a banana or avocado if you REALLY want to use citrus and want to keep the smoothness. 

You can also google delicious fruit smoothie recipes for ideas on fruit combinations. 

You can also just use chocolate ice cream and coffee with bailey’s and kaluhua to make a fantastic chocolate popcicle. 

Wine is only 11.5%–13.5% alcohol, so splashing a bit of vodka or rum (usually around 40% alcohol) can EASILY get the mix to have ‘more alcohol than a glass of wine)

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wufflesvetinari:

sherlocke:

I’m upset because I want to change the world but the world is too big and people are too mean

“Do not be daunted by the enormity of the world’s grief. Do justly, now. Love mercy, now. Walk humbly now. You are not obligated to complete the work, but neither are you free to abandon it.” - Rabbi Tarfon

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allthingslinguistic:

Linguistics takes on the “What’s something that seems obvious within your profession, but the general public seems to misunderstand?” quote-tweet meme. 

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jemeryl:

justclassicalconditioning:

hubblegleeflower:

raincityruckus:

to-galgadot:

💜😍💜😍💜😍

i am overcome

Today’s sexuality: Gal Gadot flicking up the hem of her skirt and casually taking two pistols out of the tops of her thigh high stockings, looking bored but somehow also cheeky.

@jemeryl

@justclassicalconditioning babe you could totally pull this off

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sosuperawesome:

Tile Decals

Home Art Stickers on Etsy

See our #Etsy tag

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geekandmisandry:

Prides exist because we survived in the face of extreme struggle. Gay pride. Black pride.

Pride in those identities comes from surviving and thriving when people tried to kill you, make you illegal and diminish your spirit.

Or allowing you to be fired, paid less, fight for legal equality and afforded lesser media representation.

That’s why white pride and straight pride don’t exist, you are proud in opposition to us. Our security and happiness makes you feel threatened enough that you need to retaliate.

Your pride doesn’t come from a place of joy at overcoming adversity, it comes from hate and aggression and it’s always antagonistic. You never ask about it unless you are talking about opposing us. Existing fiercely and loudly because you feel insecure.

Your pride is ego, ours is comfort. They will never be comparable.

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rapunzelatthewindow:

rsbenedict:

kaijutegu:

roachpatrol:

I WOULD PAY TEN TIMES AS MUCH FOR CHOCOLATE IF IT MEANT REDUCING THE AMOUNT OF SLAVES IN THE WORLD? HOW IS THIS ANY KIND OF PROBLEM. 

good news, you can! the company’s called Tony’s Chocolonely and their entire purpose is to make slave-free chocolate and reform the chocolate industry.

https://tonyschocolonely.com/us/en

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tony%27s_Chocolonely

Whole Foods carries it. If you don’t want to support an Amazon-owned company, World Market carries it. You can also buy it directly from the company. 

It’s the best chocolate I’ve ever had and it’s 100% slave free. Tony’s Chocolonely works really hard to push for transparency within the chocolate industry and actually has and is following an action plan to eliminate slavery within cocoa production. They’re good people who make good chocolate.

A list of slavery-free chocolate companies:

• Aldi
  
• Aloha Feels Chocolate
  
• Alma Chocolate
  
• Alter Eco Chocolate
  
• Amano Chocolate
  
• Askinoise Chocolate
  
• The Beach Chocolate Factory
  
• Belicious
  
• Black Mountain Chocolate
  
• Cacaoteca
  
• Caribeans Chocolate
  
• Castronovo Chocolate
  
• Charm School Chocolates
  
• Chocolate Cartel
  
• Chocolat Celeste
  
• Chocolate Tree
  
• Chocolate Troubadour
  
• Choconat
  
• Coco Chocolate
  
• Compartes Chocolates
  
• Dandelion Chocolate
  
• Dark Forest Chocolate
  
• Denman Island Chocolate
  
• Divine Chocolate Co.
  
• Eating Evolved
  
• Eat Your Hat
  
• El Ceibo
  
• The Endangered Species
  
• Equal Exchange
  
• Fairafric
  
• Forever Cocoa
  
• Fresco Chocolate
  
• Fruition Chocolate
  
• Gayleen’s Decadence
  
• GEPA Chocolate
  
• Giddy Yo Yo
  
• Grenada Chocolate Company
  
• Grocer’s Daughter Chocolate
  
• Guittard
  
• Habitual Chocolate
  
• Hagensborg Chocolates
  
• Health by Chocolate
  
• Hilo Shark Chocolate
  
• HNINA Gourmet
  
• Honest Artisan Chocolate
  
• Hooray  Tuffles
  
• Ithaca Fine Chocolates
  
• L.A. Burdick Chocolates
  
• La Iguana Chocolate
  
• Lake Champlain Chocolates
  
• La Siembra Cooperative
  
• Lillie Belle Farms
  
• Madecasse
  
• Malagasy
  
• Maverick Chocolate Company
  
• Max Havelaar
  
• Mayan Monkey
  
• Mayordomo
  
• Mia Chocolate
  
• Montezuma’s Chocolates
  
• Nayah Amazon Chocolates
  
• Newman’s Own Organics
  
• Purdy’s Chocolate
  
• Omanahene Cocoa Bean Company
  
• Ombar
  
• OpuLux Fair Trade Chocolate
  
• Original Hawaiian Chocolate
  
• Parliament Chocolate
  
• Montevérgine
  
• Patric Chocolate
  
• Plamil Organic Chocolate
  
• Potomac Chocolate
  
• Pure Lovin’ Chocolate
  
• Rain Republic
  
• Rapunzel Pure Organics
  
• Ritual Chocolate
  
• Samaritan Xocolata
  
• Sappho Chocolates
  
• Seed & Bean Chocolate
  
• Shaman Chocolates
  
• Sibú Chocolate
  
• Solkiki Chocolate
  
• Sweet Earth Chocolates
  
• Sweet Impact Fudge
  
• Sweet Riot
  
• Sun Eaters Organics
  
• Taza Chocolate
  
• Terra Nostra Organic
  
• Terroir Chocolate
  
• TCHO
  
• The Chocolate Wave
  
• Theo Chocolate
  
• The Original Chocolate Bar (Houston, TX)
  
• Tobago Estate Chocolate
  
• TONY’S CHOCOLONELY
  
• Vivani Chocolate
  
• Vosges
  
• Wei of Chocolate
  
• Xocolatl Chocolate
  
• Zotter

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cashwheel:

2srooky:

mostlyv0id-partiallystars:

alternative horror game locations to Abandoned American Mental Hospital

• underwater cave system full of crawling things
  
• the irish countryside in the middle of the night
• the forest of dean 
• the middle of a desert. the heat shimmers in the distance are writhing in ways hot air shouldn’t
  
• a motorway full of dead cars. some have claw-marks the length of your arm on them and the bridge up ahead has been crushed
• an abandoned RAF base
  
• soft play spaces after hours. something keeps shuffling behind you and everything is sticky
• sewers
• a crashed aircraft carrier. there are skittering noises and the sound of something chewing
• multistory car-parks
• the moon

If we want to keep with the abandoned theme tho: Abandoned honeymoon hotels, like The Summit in the poconos (all the poconos 50’s honeymoon hotels are wild) shopping centers that have gone under (like K-Mart, sears, etc.), Dead Malls, and abandoned ghost towns.

abandoned ski lodges, abandoned farms, the chesapeake/eastern shore, literally anywhere in florida, hell there are several churches in the middle of the fucking woods near where i live that are several hundred years old

there are literally so many better options than that nasty ableist bullshit trope use ur fucking imagination

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catchymemes:

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gucciballs:

themintywitch:

f1rstperson:

thewesterwoman:

disease-danger-darkness-silence:

vetivervelvetviolet:

closet-keys:

I hate Freud.

His whole weird theory about penis envy and children being sexually attracted to their parents and secret desires and all that shit actually came straight out of an attempt to ally himself with wealthy and influential rapists and was a direct form of victim blaming.

He had started the research looking into “hysteria” which at the time was really usually referring to women’s symptoms of PTSD. It turned out that the reason so many woman had these symptoms is because so many of them had experienced sexual violence– especially CSA and incest at the hands of their fathers. 

At first he was making real progress, and it was through working with these women that he discovered that talk therapy could be used to treat trauma. The symptoms of PTSD were lessened when women were able to safely speak about their experiences out loud and be believed. 

But it wasn’t the women who paid for the therapy. It was their fathers, husbands, the same men who were perpetuating the violence in the first place. And Freud didn’t want to validate his patients (the women) if it meant making his clients (the men) unhappy.

So he came up with a new idea. These symptoms weren’t from trauma. The memories weren’t real. These women were just sexual beings as children and had penis envy and it made them lust for their fathers and fantasize about the rape that they had reported to him. That’s where the shittiest parts of Freud’s theories emerged.

Another part of it besides just the monetary aspect, though, was that there was a feminist movement on the fringes starting up at the time and by publishing work about women’s CSA he would be aligning himself with it and therefore losing support, respect, funding, prestige from his male peers and from the psychological community at large. He literally made that gross victim blaming shit up to keep his own reputation with these fucks and to make sure he still got publication and fame.

By coming up with fake theory about little girls fantasizing about incest he not only fucked over generations of women, the feminist movement that was arising, and the entire psychology field for years to come, but he also completely swept away any progress made in understanding trauma and so we didn’t have any clue why men coming back from war had “hysteria” like women during WWI.

And our research on PTSD and trauma is still lacking to this day, especially because of the stigma that maybe traumatized people deserved it or wanted it or imagined it. People don’t want to believe it’s real. Perpetrators of traumatic violence want everyone to forget about it, not acknowledge it, or trivialize it.

And they have Freud’s cultural legacy to help them.

Can you provide academic citations for this? This is really neat.

http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0959353596062015

http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/0959353596062015

If you don’t have access bc paywall, here’s a decent summary on Wikipedia:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Freudian_Coverup

Some vague proof:’

http://www.nytimes.com/1984/01/24/science/freud-secret-documents-reveal-years-of-strife.html?pagewanted=all&mcubz=0

An essay on the topic:

http://socialistreview.org.uk/404/whats-wrong-sigmund-freud

If you want some more, just google, “Sigmund Freud Seduction Theory Problematic.” There’s lots of academic and non-academic discussion on the topic, but TLDR Sigmund Freud is basically disregarded in almost all aspects of psychology by anyone who actually cares about their patients, so fuck that guy for holding psychology back.

Words cannot express how much I hate Freud. His theories have been entirely disproven by current psychological research, but using him to interpret literary texts is still a widely accepted technique in the field of literary study today.

English departments across the country will not bat an eye at tenured professors bringing Freud into lectures and citing him in scholarly articles and books. Doing a “Freudian reading” of a literary character or theme is regarded as a valid means of understanding and drawing meaning from works by authors as diverse as William Shakespeare, James Joyce, and C.S. Lewis. And it is based entirely on this guy’s unbelievably sexist, flat-out fraudulent, and thoroughly disproven research. It’s insane.

Just so everyone on my dash is aware that Freud’s theories are pseudoscience.

I too hate Freud and everything he stands for. I just wish people knew why I hate him so much.

Freud also made crazy leaps in progress for OCD, but again. he pretty much threw it all in the trash. not to mention most of what we know about human sexuality is taken from Freud and Alfred Kinsey who was a huge piece of shit in his own right. was the little unfounded progress they made really worth the years of torture have been through?

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badasscommanderleksa:

delirious-comfort:

themysqueera:

themysqueera:

Someone really went out there and wrote the thing

A fake marriage between two best friends because they need money? SIGN ME UP.

I only read the first four chapters, so I don’t really know how the story will unfold, but I’m definitely buying the book. I can’t believe a book was written specially for me.

btw the book is called Marriage of Unconvenience by Chelsea M. Cameron.

Originally posted by memeingtonroad

List of things in this book:

1. Fake marriage

2. Childhood best friends falling in love

3. Cate Blanchett in suits mention

4. Slow burn

5. They are so ooblivious its painful

6. They share a bed

7. They go live together

8. Did I mention that someone actually went out there and actually published a lesbian fake dating story? I could kiss them.

You should look up lesbian publishing houses, they’re filled with these stories.

YES Well then take a look at:

1. Who’d have thought by G Benson 
   
2. Just for Show by Jae
   
3. Contract for Love by Alison Grey
   
4. Breaking Character by Lee Winter (soon to be released)
   

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somecunttookmyurl:

somecunttookmyurl:

somecunttookmyurl:

Listen my dudes Ancient Egypt existed for a really fuckass long time. Literally just Pharaonic civilization lasted 3,000 years. That’s not even including predynastic civilization and Roman rule. If you lump that in you’re looking at more like… 5,000 years.

Like. If you want a comparison of how long that is: THE YEAR IS CURRENTLY 2018. TWO THOUSAND. TWO-THIRDS OF ANCIENT EGYPTIAN PHARAONIC CIVILIZATION HAVE HAPPENED SINCE THE ‘BIRTH OF JESUS CHRIST’

We comparatively just entered the Third Intermediate Period. The Greeks will not take over for another 700~ years. Cleopatra will not be born until the year 2931.

It’s a really long time guys.

Anyway look. Listen. I sat my ass down and wrote out a timeline of “when shit happened if you started at 1AD” because I know backwards numbers are hard to process but here’s an abridged version.

If the first Egyptian Pharaoh came to power in 1AD then…

300: step pyramid built
450: Great Pyramid at Giza built
815: Pepi II dies and civil war breaks out
950: Egypt re-unified
1350: Middle Kingdom ends
1450: New Kingdom begins
1520: Hatshepsut is on the throne
1650: Ahkenaten switches to monotheistic religion and builds a new city
1680: Tutankhamun dies
1720: Ramesses II ‘the great’ ascends to the throne
1740: World’s first peace treaty signed
1790: Ramesses II dies leaving way too many children
1920: Egypt breaks into 2 states again

And now we get to ~~~~the future~~~~. If we started at 1AD all of this stuff hasn’t happened yet

2050: Briefly re-united as a single state
2180: Civil war
2250: Nubian kings take over
2335: Assyrian conquest
2665: Alexander the Great conquers Egypt
2930: Cleopatra VII born
2970: Cleopatra VII dies. Egypt falls to Rome. Fin.

And that’s just starting with the Pharaohs. If you wanted to start with Predynastic Egypt, you can go ahead and ADD ONE THOUSAND YEARS to all of those dates

I hate that this is still getting notes but that it’s getting notes *without the timeline addition* like c’mon, man. I had to do MATHS for this. I DID MATHS FOR YOU PEOPLE AND ALL I GOT WAS A BUNCH OF RACISTS

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